The World According To Bob

Bob Allen is a philosopher and cyber libertarian. He advocates for the basic human rights of men. Bob has learned to cut through the political nonsense, the propaganda hate, the surface discourse, and talk about the underlying metamessage that the front is hiding. Bob tells it like it is and lets the chips fall where they may. If you like what you read be sure to bookmark this blog and share it with your friends.

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Wednesday, March 07, 2007

Good Parenting

Bob recently ran across an article by Janice Shaw Crouse called, The child bride: Assaulting the innocent written by a feminist misandrist and published on a right wing political newsletter. She blames leftist feminists while supporting the feminist agenda of opposition to marriage. Overall her article is confused about supporting marriage and family as the religious right usually does, while at the same time opposing marriage of marriageable young women as feminists always do. The author defines "child bride" as women under 18, a totally arbitrary and completely political mark. All feminists share her misandry. Dr. Laura ranted recently on her radio talk show to a 17 year old woman (already the mother of a child who had been adopted) who wanted to marry a soldier. Dr. Laura advised the young woman to avoid all men for another 5 years, until she would be 23 years old. Dr. Laura gave as a reason the fact that young women are capable of forming deep emotional bonds with men, an ability that slowly goes away and is less strong by the mid 20s. HELLO? I though that forming a deep and life long emotional bond was supposed to be an important part of marriage. When marriage is postponed until older, more "educated" women no longer are able form strong emotional bonds. They tend to divorce in much higher numbers. Marriage is then a convenience, not a life bond. Serial monogamy is now the standard in America.

Ms. Crouse points to Britney Spears as an example of "child brides" in America. She uses very questionable data from impoverished tribal countries to claim that marriage of young women causes diseases, and that birthing children causes death. Like all feminists she works hard to oppose marriage by encouraging postponement for longer and longer times. Feminists hate families and marriage. Lesbianism is the mythology of feminists of left or right politics. Marriage is "sleeping with the enemy." They begin by forcing young women to postpone marriage in favor of "education" until they are no longer as able to form deep emotional bonds with a man, and until their primary baby making years are declining. Widely published recent studies show that female fertility is at its maximum from about age 14 to age 26. After age 26, for an average woman, her fertility will decline, and it will decline rapidly after age 30. Young women are told by feminists, taught by feminist schoolmarms, and encouraged by feminist trained parents, to eschew marriage in favor of continued years in school and college, then to pursue a career. Year after year her family years go by, her chances for a loving marriage fade. She is trained in anti-men hate, full of "rights" and "empowered" and no longer able to form deep emotional bonds. As a marriage prospect she is strictly second rate. And that is assuming that she doesn't already have a bastard or two, like so many of her feminist sisters.

Young women aren't being allowed to marry, but many of them are bearing their children anyway. Bastards amount to about 40% of the children in the United States, and about 75% of the children of minority and low income families. Feminists can't fool mother nature entirely. Many young women get pregnant and bear children because their bodies know that children are what women are about. All the feminist misandry and anti-marriage propaganda can't fool mother nature. Mother nature gets young women pregnant and creates children whether they have formed a good family or not. The current situation in the US with 40% bastards and the rest from divorced families is a social disaster of monumental proportions.

The trouble is that most people believe the crap that misandrist feminists like Janice Shaw Crouse constantly spew. It’s a restatement of what they have been told for years so it must be right, right? Wrong! To figure out what is right we have to look at the basic assumptions. The lies we have all been taught are in the assumptions behind the lies.

First, we need to look at the purpose and meaning of marriage. In these days when we are told that "gay marriage" is "equal rights" and "domestic partners" are equal to marriage we badly need to remember the purpose and meaning of marriage. Marriage is the social and biological union that creates children and forms a family to raise them. Marriage is about young women forming deep emotional bonds with a man to make a life long family. Its about making babies during the woman's primary baby making years, years when her ability to form an emotional bond is still strong. Marriage is not, as lesbian feminists claim, a bunch of government rights that two perverts are not getting. Marriage is about making a family with children.

Second, we need to revisit the purpose and obligations of parents. Janice Shaw Crouse tells us that young brides suffer, "an abrupt end to childhood," as if that is a serious harm. The opposite is true. The mission of every child is to grow up and become an adult, to take a place with other adults of his or her community. The job of all parents is to help their child to grow up and become an adult as rapidly and as well as possible. Confining children into a prolonged state of childhood is the opposite of being a good parent. Preventing a child from growing into adulthood is harming the child by stopping his or her normal progress. Many philosophers such as Alan W. Watts in Does it Matter point out that confining children for longer and longer time in a state of suspended animation called "adolescence" is seriously wrong. A parent's first duty is to encourage and assist his son or daughter to grow up as easily and as quickly as possible. That is the job and responsibility of parents and of children.

Third, we need to look at the fundamental human need of young women to be making babies and getting on with their lives. Women will make babies whether they are "allowed" to or not. Millions of bastards now growing up in America should be proof for any doubter. The religious right in America advocates "abstinence" until marriage, but then like Janice Shaw Crouse they deny the marriage that is the foundation of that life. The young woman who phoned Dr. Laura had already made one bastard, and still Dr. Laura advised her against forming a loving family. The left advocates free sex and abortions for the babies, but that is a crime against nature on several levels. In real life, young women badly need to be getting married before making their children. We need to do it for the women and for the children. Millions of bastards should have decent families.

Does marriage during her primary baby making years doom a woman to a life of poverty and no education? Not hardly. A woman who makes her babies when her body is ready, about age 16 to 20, will have grown children by her 30s. She will have another several decades to get a Ph.D. if she likes, or a law career, or become a professional. But if she waits until she's 30 something to panic and look for a husband for herself and her bastard she is in for a life of disappointment. Parents need to help their daughters to have a good life as a mother with grandchildren. Your daughter can have it all but she has to do it in the order that nature gives her. A daughter needs to grow up and get married while she is still able to form deep emotional bonds with her husband. She needs a family in which to bear her children that she will bear whether she is married or not. A good father will help to find an older man for her, perhaps someone 10 years older who is old enough to be able to provide for his young bride and his family. That is how good parents have provided for their children since the dawn of humanity, until feminism. That is how good parents need to provide for their daughters today.

18 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Bob, where do you get all this free time to listen to radio shows like Dr. Laura?

Maybe if you got a job, you could find a nice 14-year-old girl to marry.

March 07, 2007 4:24 PM  
Blogger Bob said...

Note to anonymous: 1) Many construction people listen to radio while working. Dr. Laura comes on after Rush Limbaugh on my local station. 2) You dishonestly switched from Bob's article about young WOMEN to "girl." 3) Young men of marriage appropriate age are suitable husbands for young women.

March 07, 2007 5:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think it would be fine for bob to marry a young female (or 2) if he wished to regardless of his age (and I am in the catagory of young men).

Not that such is possible in this country.

--MikeeUSA--

March 08, 2007 3:01 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Bob
Your logic impresses me. This must
be one of your best posts yet. Women after 22 aren't really able to form significant, lifelasting emotional bonds, the feminist is completely right about that. They will always remember their first love in their teens, women aren't able to shed their baggage. Now I want your honest opinion:I'm in lobe with a fifteen year old woman (almost sixteen), but her parents oppose the relationship, not because they consider me unworthy, but think that she is too young. In a few years more we would like to marry, but we would like to start dating. Age of consent in my country is fourteen (unless you are over 35, then it's 18), so should we start dating anyway or should I respect her partents wishes. We do intend to marry a few years later.

March 08, 2007 5:16 AM  
Blogger Bob said...

Note to Anonymous (March 08, 2007 5:16 AM)
Bob has a great deal of respect for the authority of fathers. You say that "her parents" don't want the young woman to marry, but Bob suspects that it is really the feminist mother. If you can show that you are able to support and take care for the young woman then you need to have a man to man talk with her father. Explain your ability to earn a decent living for a family and explain that you are seeking to provide her with a fulfilling life as a wife and mother while she is young enough to form deep emotional bonds with a husband. Explain that in these times when so many young women are bearing bastards you want his daughter to have the love and protection of a good husband for her children, the other half of "waiting till marriage." Then respect her father's decision. If he isn't convinced right away you may continue to stay acquainted with the family and continue to demonstrate your value as an addition to his family and as a safe husband for his daughter. He may have to battle his feminist wife to allow the best for his daughter. In any event you should respect the father's decision.

March 08, 2007 6:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thanks for the advice Bob. I forgot to mention that I'm already 26. Her parents do like me, however they don't want their daughter dating me before she is 18. We love each other a lot, and would like to marry when she is around 20. But for now we really want her parents to authorize the relationship. Really thanks for the advice. By the way, I'm a taxlawyer, already passed my bar exam,but still working on my thesis for another six months, and she still has two years of highschool left, so anyway we can't marry for at least another two years. For a woman to marry in her midteens actually isn't realistic,becuae they need to finish high school, but they should marry around 18-22 years of age and be allowed to date somewhat older men when in high school.
By the way, don't you think it's tragicomical when you hear women in their midthirties declaring that they are still to young to have children, but will have them in the future?
Soryy for any mistakes, but as a Chilean Spanish is my first language, German my second and English only my third.

March 08, 2007 9:57 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Age of consent in my country is fourteen (unless you are over 35, then it's 18)

Well that's better then in america but why do they discriminate against older men?

I'm 20, but I'm not going to get married atleast untill then probably (if at all, I doubt I'll ever have both a good job (or that my buisness will be sucessful enough to pay all the taxes and such) and at the same time live in a men's country/time... this removes my drive to do anything (except opensource work) as what's the point? to live? I've allready done that.).

--MikeeUSA--

March 08, 2007 3:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

In highschool girls learn to become whores. I wouldn't look to a girl beyond 16. 16 is usually the year (or before) that they have fooled around. Sweet 16.

And I went to a catholic school...

Girls don't need an education, they only need to know how to obey and be nice to their husband.

--MikeeUSA--

March 08, 2007 3:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

The age limit of 35 is not really in the law but was set by jurisprudence. Chile has estupro(statutory rape)but it only apllies it to middleaged men. The judges presume that it is normal for a teenage girl to fall in love with a young twentysomething men. However, if the men is over 35 most judges presume there was abuse (and let's be honest about it, a lot of teenage girls prefer young men over teenage boys, but that doesn't mean they want forty year old men. If you are over 35 and can proof that it is a true love relationship technically you are not commiting a crime and can get away with it. But the judges and society will presume otherwise.

March 08, 2007 5:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ah, well then I don't like your society any more then my own (IE: not much).

This shows you that anywhere you go you need to have weapons so that if the host society decides that it doesn't like you having young wives you can kill them untill they leave you alone (and if they don't then conqure them).

Yes I am decentant from europeans.

There is nothing wrong with middle aged men taking young wives.

Women were made for men, not the otherway around.

--MikeeUSA--

March 08, 2007 5:59 PM  
Blogger khankrumthebulgar said...

Feminism is the theory Lesbianism is the practice. The truth is that our culture is in chaos because we have abandoned sanity, and adopted a cultural way of life contrary to our biology. No matter what the Lying Skank FemNags say, our Young Women are sexually active.

Myspace has become a Whore Factory. And if you look at the UK where a Mother recently had a child at age 13, she conceived when she was 12. It should be obvious that we need to reassess how we are living.

The Social Engineers who have created this nightmare want to perpetuate it. But even Women are refusing to go along. Feminists openly acknowledge that Women are bailing on them. Sadly the damage is very far along.

Until young Women, ages 16 and up. Are properly raised to assume the duties of a Wife. Are courted, and Marry a responsible older Male. Who is prepared to raise children and support a wife. We will continue to see Crime rise, delinquency increase, and the social ills associated with this insane way of living.

March 09, 2007 11:09 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Girls should be married right when they are able to have children. That is at 12, 13, or 14. By 16 they will have allready been looking around: it is too old.

They should be married when they were designed to be married.

March 10, 2007 12:28 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

The feminist devastation of modern familes comes to fruition in death as out of control single mothers span daughters like their mothers. Feminist utopia ends in the trunk -- for a month.

"Angry, raging, functional alcoholic" mother who had lost her job and occasionally became violent ends up in trunk as murderous teenage daughter and her friends frolic in house and use dead mom's car and debit card. Story on CNN

March 10, 2007 5:24 PM  
Anonymous C said...

If women go back to the right direction of being a helpmate to a man all order and sanity will be restored.

If women will not fullfill their purpose and trust men, for which their existence depends on, then they will die.

No Mercy.

Only save those that are willing to be saved and damn all else.

Additionally khankrumthebulgar makes a point when he puts simply that feminism is the theory but lesbianity is the practice/action.

I would add to that statement that:

There is nothing feminine about pretending to be something you are not (a man).

March 11, 2007 12:12 PM  
Anonymous C said...

Men are disgusted by women who attempt to be something they are not.

Women are not independent in any sense.

Families fail when they turn their childs over to public schools.


Its an insane free for all at schools.

It is so pathtic to see women today that spend a lot of time and someone elses money to look like a common whore.

But then ameri-con women have no useful qualities any more.
They are usually schizophrenic or psychotic if things do not go exactly their way, and even if they do they are usually more psycho than ever.

But I am only talking about women.

Young men need to act like men.
Most important: Stop pandering to women, because guys who do this deserve No respect from anyone.
If you pander to women they will use it against you, to teach you a lesson.
Stop chasing pussy.
Stop lowering yourselves to a womans level of emotional stupidity.
Do not get tested with her inane pointless questions.

Be a man.
Be verile.
Stick out your torso.
Give women that look that melts their minds, widens their eyes and weakens their hips.
Do not talk to dishonest whores.
Never be afraid of offending a woman.
Tell the truth, the truth is offensive to those who lie.
Wear mens clothing.
Be confident
Have your own thoughts.
Learn from other men.
Get a useful job.
Learn about important knowledge.

March 11, 2007 12:25 PM  
Anonymous C said...

I was just looking at some interesting and funny pictures about women and this one is excellent:

WOMEN OF AMERICA....
DO YOUR PART!

EVERY YEAR american women waste MILLIONS of GALLONS of GASOLINE
and spew COUNTLESS TONS of POLLUTANTS into the air driving to and from their "JOBS". Ladies, do the AMERICAN thing: STAY AT HOME, WHERE YOU BELONG!

Cleaner air, lowered oil dependency, and a hot meal on the table - EVERYBODY WINS!

Awesome!

The link to this picture can be found at:

http://i167.photobucket.com/albums/u142/
CMAC1000_bucket/
womenwastethemostgasundoubtedly.jpg

OR

[IMG]http://i167.photobucket.com/albums/u142/CMAC1000_bucket/womenwastethemostgasundoubtedly.jpg[/IMG]

March 17, 2007 12:49 PM  
Blogger Bob said...

Good one C

March 17, 2007 2:01 PM  
Blogger Masculist Man said...

Wasn't Britiney Spears over 18 when she married? I wonder how that makes her a child bride? Oh well,more feminist stupidity in action.

April 04, 2007 11:57 PM  

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