The World According To Bob

Bob Allen is a philosopher and cyber libertarian. He advocates for the basic human rights of men. Bob has learned to cut through the political nonsense, the propaganda hate, the surface discourse, and talk about the underlying metamessage that the front is hiding. Bob tells it like it is and lets the chips fall where they may. If you like what you read be sure to bookmark this blog and share it with your friends.

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You can't make wrong into right by doing wrong more effectively. It's time for real MEN to stand up and take back our families, our society, and our self respect. It is not a crime to be born a man. It is not a crime to act manly.

Wednesday, June 15, 2005

Ending the slavery called "child support"

The ideas behind the radical feminist social experiment called "absentee child support" began at the first women's rights convention at Seneca Falls, New York, in 1848. Women, they said, should be able to leave their husbands, take his children, and still be supported by him. Feminazis have always opposed marriage, believing that "marriage oppresses women." Yet they always believe that women have a "right" to have men support them in the manner they want to be accustomed. In the last half of the 19th century, after Seneca Falls, the divorce rates in the US began increasing as more feminazis left their husbands. Organized feminists began lobbying for judges and legislatures to require that the ex-husband be required to "pay" for the support of the children that the female stole from his home.

Two major social changes profoundly affecting children happened in the 19th century. Prior to the middle of the 19th century children were assumed to belong to their fathers. A mother who left her husband had to leave her children. Far fewer women were willing to abandon their children and marriages generally stayed together. Click here for the case for father custody published by Fathering Magazine. In addition children were a labor asset until the 19th century. As late as 1900, 90% of Americans still lived and worked on family farms. Most of the rest worked in family owned shops or small businesses. All members of the family old enough to walk were expected to do a share of the work on farm, shop, or business. In cities where there were many immigrants who had no farm or shop a substantial number of children ended up working in factories. Social concern began outlawing child labor, creating a dependent class of young people that has extended longer and longer through the 20th century. The dependent class of young, unable by law to work and earn their own living, now created more of a burden on welfare agencies, especially with more and more feminazis leaving their husbands to avoid the "oppression" of marriage.

Feminazis seized on the radical notion of "absentee child support" as the answer to their demand for forcing men to continually support them after they left. Organized lobbying efforts by radical feminist groups in the late 19th and early 20th century promoted the dual radical ideas of female custody and required payment of "support." It had taken them a century of ratcheted changes in social thinking to lay the groundwork, but by the 1960s virtually all of the United States had laws and judicial fiat requiring 1. Custody of minor children goes to the mother after divorces, and 2. The father must pay the mother under the guise of "support' of the children. Click here for a longer history of the radical change to a "child support" based slave state. Feminazis aggressively used the lie that fathers abandon families to convince legislatures to enact their radical new laws. The truth is quite the opposite. It was and is almost always the female who abandons her marriage vows. Mothers abandon families and wanted to use the children as an excuse to demand continued her support. Some states also had strong alimony laws, but questions were being asked about how that conflicted with feminist demands for "equality." The "child support" gave them the excuse to play the victim, claiming to be a suffering "single mother" struggling to feed her children while the brute man had run off.

The radical experimental changes called "child support" in the first half of the 20th century were greatly exacerbated in the last half of the 20th century by the establishment of "no-fault" divorce laws that were widely enacted. By the end of the 20th century more than half of US marriages ended in divorce, and about 90% of divorces are filed by women. Surveys show that the reasons so many females abandon their marriage vows have more to do with boredom than anything else. "To find myself" is a common excuse given by females for destroying a family according to studies. In public they frequently lie and blame the nearest available men for their sins. In some US States, females no longer bother to get married in the first place. In California now more than half of children are born to unmarried women. The state vigorously pursues the man who these unmarried bitches claim is the father of their bastards. It has become a powerful legalized extortion, a way for a young and uneducated female to support herself. She can whelp a couple of bastards and live comfortable on "child support" programs for decades. Hard working men who are usually unwilling fathers, only the female has "a woman's right to choose," are bound into indentured servitude, a form of slavery, for 20 years to pay her for bearing a bastard.

None of this is a good solution to anything. All of it is a badly failed radical feminazi social experiment which is destroying millions of families and hurting millions and millions of children. All of it is bad law, bad family law, and slavery. It does not get better by combining the worst features together.

So what is a better solution, some people have asked. And, Bob has frequently proposed better solutions.

First, we have to stop the fiction of "child support." It's not about supporting children. It's the radical feminazi program of forcing men to pay and support women who have destroyed their families. It's the Seneca Falls program, allowing women to leave their husbands, destroy their marriage, and still be supported.

A man does have an obligation to support his children, and his obligation is equal to that of the mother. Both parents have concurrent co-equal 100% responsibility to support his or her child. Does that mean that one parent should ever have to pay the other? NO, it does not. To support a child you put an extra plate on your table at dinner. You put a mattress and blanket in a corner for the child to sleep at night. You provide some clothing and other necessities for the child.

Paying some bimbo who stole your child IS NOT supporting your child. For millions of years females have brought their children to the fathers for his support and protection. It is a parenting system that has worked well and our race has succeeded and become dominate. The radical feminazi experiment is both badly unfair and willfully hurts all the children involved. It uses children as pawns in a game of extortion. It uses and abuses children to allow females who have broken their marriage vows and destroyed their families to be paid for doing so.

In addition, the female also has concurrent 100% responsibility to support her child. If she was not able to support her child she had no business creating one, and she ought to be held responsible for her actions. She had sole and exclusive legal choice to create the child, "a woman's right to choose." She should be held morally and legally responsible for the results of her decisions. After a century and a half of feminists, all women, demanding "equality" it's high time to demand that they take equal responsibility for their decisions, and be held accountable, as any man would be. If SHE decides to make a child, SHE bears 100% responsibility for her decision. The father also has co-equal responsibly to support his child, but in no way does his responsibility relieve her of her responsibility. SHE is 100% responsible to support her child. If she can not, or will not, support her child let her bring the child to his father and beg for his support as females have been doing for millions of years. That system worked. The radical social experiment in slavery of men to pay women for breaking up families does not and can not work. It's high time it be recognized as the monumental social failure that it is and completely abandoned.

The radical experiment called "absentee child support" can not be fixed by adjusting the formula for pay to a more equitable formula. You can't make wrong into right by doing wrong more effectively. A mountain of research shows that children taken from their father's care by divorcing or single mothers badly hurts children. Every decent person who cares about children needs to become aware and demand that this radical social experiment be ended before another generation of children is hurt.

Steps to support families help children and improve life.
1. Strongly encourage the continuation of marriage by awarding residential custody preference to the parent who wants to keep the family together, as defined by the parent who didn't file for a divorce.
2. Strongly encourage the continuation of marriage by eliminating payments for breaking up marriages under "child support," "alimony," or any other legal euphemism.
3. Provide strong social stigmatization to single mothers who bear bastards. Stop making bastards a manner of earning a living for uneducated women.
4. Outlaw the creation of bastards by artificial fertility clinics. (See Bob's essay on Frankenstein Kids)
5. Recognize that "support" for a child means a plate at dinner, not being forced to "pay" someone else to support the child.
6. Recognize the 100% co-equal responsibility of the mother to support her children.
7. End all "absentee child support" laws. No parent should be forced to "pay" the other parent because both are fully responsible.
8. Scale back the dependency of children by allowing youth to work when they are able and desire to do so.
9. Encourage females to take their children to the father for his support as females have done for millions of years.
10. End the debtor's prisons and release the hundreds of thousands of men now in prison for failure to "pay" the female who destroyed his family.
11. End laws on "custody" awards and stop court custody decisions after divorce. Every child has a fundamental human right to both natural parents. Any "custody" decision violates the rights of the child -- who is not getting divorced from either parent.
12. Eliminate persecution of fathers for "kidnapping" their children. You can not "kidnap" your own child.
13. Dismantle the state bureaucracy that feeds on the backs of fathers struggling to survive in the social slavery called "child support."
14. Tar and feather any judge or elected official who hurts children and families by willfully supporting the insanity of "absentee child support."



Anonymous sicmagot said...

exactly right.Choice for women does NOT eliminate RESPONSIBILITY for those choices.I paid 218$ per week to my ex-wife who lived off of it. after she got cought for child abuse and I got my kids she pays me..........0$.was that "child support or dead beat ex-wife support?I should be able to sue her and the court for all the therepy bills for me and my children. of course that would never pan out....

June 16, 2005 10:39 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If fault divorce were restored and Women who file for Divorce without proving fault got zero dollars for child support. The Divorce rate would plummet. Women who initiate Divorce in 7 of 8 instances would no longer have Uncle Sam for a replacement Daddy would lose on the Government Gravy Train it would stop alot of this nonsense.

Women would make more careful choices regarding Marriage and not view it as a Lifestyle choice. Women Divorce out of boredom or for a perceived upgrade in lifestyle. Men need to reject Women and refuse to marry under our current insane culture.

June 20, 2005 9:36 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

So are you for abortion or what? If you eliminate it as an option you MUST accept that there will be unwilling fathers (along with reluctant mothers) and more single moms and a bigger drain on everyone. Someone's got to feed those mouths

January 22, 2006 1:52 AM  
Anonymous drex said...

100% correct Bob. Involuntary "child support" is theft!

If someone steals your car, do you pay for their fuel?

April 23, 2006 6:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well lets see if this obama will really change things, or pressure into not reelecting him if he doesnt stop this madness. i want another kid but im not stupid. this is really ungodly. lets start mass emailing everyone we know and hopefully it will catch on, god willing!

October 22, 2008 10:35 PM  
Blogger Bob said...

Note to Anonymous:
Obama is a feminist mangina who fully supports all the anti-men hate of feminism. Joe Biden brags that he wrote the worst anti-men hate legislation ever to come out of Washington. Whatever "change" those two manginas bring about will NOT be any help to already oppressed fathers.

October 23, 2008 6:50 AM  
Anonymous soulguru said...

You ARE indeed a REAL man for being able to see many females for what they are:

ENABLED by "The State" to promote illegitimacy for profit

November 14, 2008 5:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree of course but is there a Common Law Commercial Remedy to end Child Support and assert the Maxiam's of Law. If so Let us Go.

January 13, 2009 9:22 AM  
Anonymous EL-GEE said...

I agree. How can we file the Common Law Commercial remedy for Child Support. What is the process.

January 13, 2009 9:35 AM  
Blogger EL-GEE said...

Is there a found remedy and filing for child support in commercial or common law to assert my rights.

January 13, 2009 9:43 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

"Choice for women" means men as second class citizens. Fuck that!

April 29, 2009 11:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You have a great comedy here. When will you take it on the road? I'm in Florida and can not wait to see you!!

July 31, 2010 11:40 AM  
Anonymous Ceagle said...

Bob, ever run for congress/senate... You have a voter in me!

November 19, 2010 9:15 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Mandatory biological father's consent at the first medical confirmation of pregnancy followed by DNA testing, otherwise immediate mandatory abortion procedure under blue gun thugs presence.

May 05, 2011 11:28 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

what can i do?

my ex cheated on me, lied to me, and used me as a atm machine while she slept all day. finally when i could no longer tolerate being used and was ending the relationship, she went off birth control, got pregnant, and moved 7 states away.

i got my request for dna last week.

since then i have been in a suicidal depression. i can not believe that the law is on her side and because i fell in love with a deceitful, lazy, selfish hoodrat, I now have to give her 25% of my income for a child I did not want, begged her not to have, and had no choice over.

i did not even see my ex while pregnant, i could not be at the birth, i had no say in my child's name, and now i am forced to pay 25% of my income for two decades.

how is this anything other than slavery? my only fault was trusting my ex not to fuck me over - huge mistake.

May 23, 2011 1:34 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think an intelligent person would say that the modern court system has completely failed families today.What the courts have created today is a self-serving system whereby the teenage gangs that are with us today are often the children of a failed system of wholesale "awarding" children to an unqualified custodial parent and that person isn't required by the courts to be accountable When a child becomes a ward of the court he/she is of great value to the system and to arrest, prosecute, and incarcerate, one of these "wards of the court" is very expensive and is big business, a self-perpetuating business if you will.She gets a very large expensive contract to expose your kids daily to irresponsible hateful behavior and you get to pay for it. What can expect from children raised in homes where one parent is the "winner" and the other parent is the "enemy"? Your kids will pay the rest of their lives for what the courts allowed/encouraged the custodial parent to do.

April 01, 2012 10:54 AM  
Blogger possom trot said...

Love the blog I'm in my second marriage with three kids another problem with their formula is that it does not account for those of us who do not make an hourly wage but instead get payed by the mile or by commission or other such unsteady pay I myself am a trucker there is a common misconception that we make alot of money simply not true this endentured servitude has cost me and my family our hoe on three occasions our power for heat in winter twice and my wife and I have starved to see that the kids are fed while she sits fat dumb and happy off my hard work and efforts if I don't get enough miles in due to illness weather or mechanical failure or any other unforeseen setback I not only lose my paycheck but also my per diem to live on while on the road which in turn puts me in depth to the company who then has a get it there come hell or high water driver hauling ass for free the back child support gets caught up every February by my income tax return just to start the cycle all over again I'm 28 years old and see my family about 3 to 5 days a month due to bad diet stress and fatigue my health is rapidly declining I'm under weight malnourished and my nerves are fried I feel like a Hebrew slave with my dispatchers cracking the whip like the Pharaohs slave drivers if something dissent get done soon I wont live long enough to care anymore I've tried legal channels I've prayed to God for release and gotten nowhere while my ex wife sits fat dumband happy with the daughter I did not want who does not even bear my family name she has not only stolen my hard earned money but my health dignity and ability to survive I hope somebody with influence reads this and does something about this horribly broken system and I promise any and all with dying breath for the misery she has inflicted upon myself and my family I will take her to hell with me and trade my soul to torment her for eternity I haven't had a decent meal in six months how long can one live on hate alone

May 13, 2012 7:04 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have to say that I no longer care for my government or my country due to family court and what it has done to me. It has made me a second class citizen. My ex makes reckless choices all the time... chose to leave me for another man, even told our daughter that he new guy was her father while custody was still in the courts. Yet she is responsible enough to be the custodial parent? I don't think so.

June 18, 2012 9:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

After all of the B.S I went through regarding child support, the kid's welfare mother talking horribly about me to my kids, and custody procedings, the court damaging my credit with incorrect information, and being arrested on Christmas Eve, I WALKED AWAY FROM MY KIDS. It was the best decision ever! I am no longer depressed, suicidal and angry. I pay child support that does not benefit my kids but, I no longer have the added stress of trying to fight a Court system that did not have the best interest of my kids. I have 3 more years of support payments. I tell all of my friends not to get married, do not adopt anyone's kids and do not have kids because you will be enslaved.

February 26, 2013 12:24 PM  
Blogger Bob said...

I understand completely Anonymous. The only kind of argument that the feminist Agents of Satan in black robes of hell will listen to comes in .30-06 caliber. That feminist hate program is all about slavery of men.

February 26, 2013 2:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Awesome explanation of the family court mess and how we have ended up there.

I am a woman who left my husband due to his addiction/alcoholism. He would not let me see my son and the state awarded him large amounts of child support while they made me wait 15 months for a court date for custody. I asked for 50/50 custody. My ex asked for full custody. We got 50/50. No child support is paid by either of us. I work full time and have had a job since I was 16, I'm 45. If the law stated 50/50 custody I wouldn't be paying an attorney for what I should have a right to.

Now my boyfriend is paying $1200 a month child support on a $17 an hour paycheck. He pays one drug addict (positive for 4 drugs in court last week and still has custody because he didn't file a petition to relocate 8 years ago)and one grandmother that keeps the child from both parents. He not only can't travel the 600 miles he has to every other weekend to exercise his 'visitation', he would be homeless (again, he was for 5 years) if he didn't live with me. And who really suffers - money I could use for my son goes to 2 bitches in another state. My son works. So we all three pay the child support.

50/50 should be law, whether the parents were married or not, if both parents want the child. Since the woman can opt for an abortion, the man should be able to opt for a 'financial abortion' and not claim a child a welfare whore tricked him into impregnating her with. Child support (mommy support) should be outlawed. Slavery is legal, wake up people!

April 17, 2013 8:51 AM  

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